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* FOLLOW MY STRATEGY AND YOUR NIGHT WILL NEVER AGAIN TURN INTO ANY OF THESE THREE THINGS… SLOW, ARDUOUS OR GRUELLING!

* Understand that you are a creature of HABIT. What you did before you will do again. Break your old “VIEWING, REACTIVE, SPECTATOR – MODE PATTERN”. Just get out there and fucking make shit happen! Create a new pattern!

I have better and better nights because I follow THIS pattern…

Entering the Venue:

* Start out with a warm up set. This is huge. Build momentum. But don’t worry about it… just BE. If you’re constantly questioning yourself as to whether you are in the zone or not, the ‘zone’ will constantly elude you. Let state come from within. You will give “less of a fuck” as the night goes on and the momentum will take care of itself. Don’t give a fuck about giving less of a fuck! Speak to your first group within 3 seconds of walking into the venue… NO HESITATION… AND IT DOESN’T EVEN MATTER WHO YOU TALK TO! What’s more, any lame ass line will do… that doesn’t matter either. You just need to start breaking those old spectator mode habits such as walking around the venue to “see if there are hot girls there”. You can start the first few interactions by simply asking ” hey what time does this place shut” or “what time does it get busy” or “Hey what’s the occasion.” COMPLETELY LAME right? Maybe, but you just need that momentum… remember!And no running straight to the bar to buy a drink before you “check out the venue”. What do you want to be a spectator or a creator? The longer you leave it, the longer you’re the spectator, the more you start listening to that little bastard voice in the head. When I’m in a busy club I walk round saying random shit to everyone. That’s EVERYONE. I don’t care. Complete self amusement… I’m having a LOT of fun.

* Fuck that voice!! The smaller the time in between different groups of people, the less in your head you will be!

* Momentum truly is a wonderful thing!

* A little side note regarding alcohol… If a women senses you are confident because you are slightly tipsy then if makes it a lot harder for her to build attraction for you. Don’t hide behind ALCOHOL… don’t be one of THOSE guys who tell their friends “I’M OKAY ONCE I’VE HAD A DRINK.” Replace alcohol with momentum.It won’t take long before you start taking bigger risks. The more you practice, the more you start to say things that are completely congruent with who you are instead of those bullshit LAME ASS openers that you don’t give a shit about the answers to. You start going more direct. You start getting more physical… more SEXUAL. As a side note: If you’re in one venue for the night you have a choice… Build the momentum gradually or designate an “obliteration venue” wherein you give yourself a time limit. Around ten minutes maybe. Bust in and speak to EVERYONE within that time. Be completely outcome free. You can start off lame, but you want to get more and more direct.

* What I mean when I say direct is be more “Authentic” and “Congruent”.

* I work in a bar on most Friday nights where I constantly get to flirt with hot women. One night I finished early but the momentum stayed with me and as I was walking home I made a very direct approach on a VERY tall and beautiful blonde lady I observed through the window as I walked past a late night bar. Direct walk up… Hold eye contact. I took her away from all the guys she was with and bought her a drink. Yeah that’s right guys… I bought her a drink! And then I took her home and did naughty things to her!! Not one of her friends stopped her. Pure confidence!! And I tell you now, if that was the first girl I’d spoken to that night there would have been no way I would of gone in hard as I did. The momentum had gathered me up to a peak!

* Entering the Venue Part II:
* So now we have the foundations – the way you should be approaching a night out and the importance of momentum – I want to talk about the interactions themselves…
* As you build up your flow you will start to have more interactions, more conversations. You will start taking bigger “risks”.
* I don’t really care what she says for the first couple of minutes as she has her “club shield up”. It can be brought down with either high energy of low energy absurdity.
* The randomness of the night makes the fun factor kick in, but I’m still going to shoot to kill. I normally buzz around the club either in high energy mode or low energy mode. Both, however, have the overall goal of going out TO GET LAID… either that night or at a later date.
* I don’t stay in one mode or the other, but I’m definitely in low energy mode for the larger percentage of the night. I used to be a complete nut case and just run around being a clown and I still enjoy adding in some of this stuff. But it’s all about balance. I find balance at a ratio of 80/20 (low to high).

High Energy Mode:

High fives!

Say Cheers (while touching glasses).

Scream WHOOOO! (and scream it with your hands up in the air while standing in the middle of a large group).

You can even walk up singing the song that’s playing or even just mime it! Just hold eye contact no matter what is playing.

Use ‘QUIRKY’ openers. Get your wing to choose them for you. Some of my recent ones include:

“Hi… I’m Brad Pit”

“Who lies more? Turtles or dolphins…

And the classic ‘Thundercats’ opener.. SNNNAAAAAARRRRFFFF!!! Hoooooooo!!

Think of your own though, don’t just use these. It really doesn’t matter what it is. The Funnier YOU find it the better. YOU are outcome free, remember…

So dance like you’re mental. Pump your fists in air, make your face expressive. Go down on one knee. Anything… in a pure “I don’t give a shit style’. Dance like a chicken even. PURE SELF AMUSEMENT ! “Being the party” is very important. But be it for you, without looking for a specific reaction. Draw state from within. Don’t let your state be dictated by external forces.

Soon you’ll be amusing yourself while going for instant make outs on the dancefloor – then it’s kiss closing in bathrooms… and even LOVE MAKING IN THE LAV!!

Low Energy Mode:

This is my foundation or default state when I’m in club! I go into low energy mode when I feel I’ve reached the HOOK POINT. Once there I can go into LOW ENERGY mode and leave the girl to invest the greater energy into the interaction. It’s simple… resting purely on the subtleties of that inner smile.

I’m engaging in the purest form with the person I’m talking to.

I’m doing everything other than trying.

I’m pure congruency. I’m not trying and not even trying not to try.

I’m simply PRESENT, yet my momentum is propelling me forwards.

I’m taking up a lot of space.

My body movements are smooth.

* I’m not needy. I’m not checking out the women or anything else for that matter… if a glass smashes… no big deal. A fight breaks out…no big deal. I probably wouldn’t even notice! It’s pure presence in motion and there’s no looking to the environment for cues… I’m demonstrating complete internal validation.

Comparing The Two:

* I find that it’s balls on the line in high energy state… that’s where I’m making shit happen. BUT, low energy state is where I’m getting the opportunities to speak to the women I really like the look of. I build a lot of value up from high energy state… because I’m the party. I stand out immeasurably from all the losers who are just stood there observing and CHECKING OUT the hot girls … trying to build up enough courage to go and actually speak to one of them. And then I’m just chill and the fluctuation between these two modes is dynamite. I find that after only 15 minutes in a venue a lot of women are already making it really easy for us to open them. They’re leaning against walls and making subtle eye contact. Or they’re brushing past and standing right next to us. Sometimes they’re so close that my body can’t help but be touching theirs.
* It’s purely from the vibe we give off… and this is where I start picking off the hotties!
* I realise that the dynamics of interactions, at the start, can be hard to crack so I’ve come up with some classic stuff that gets the conversation easily flowing. If you did everything above properly then you won’t need to “worry” about silence or what to say next. What’s your opener? Like I said before… IT’S NO BIG DEAL!
* Say “Hey what’cha looking at girl! (do it with a cheeky smile that grins from inside out)
* Say “You guys look like you are from (insert random country here! But make it something random and fun like North or South Kenya, Korea or even Wales!)
* Say “I bet you guys live together…”
* Ask them who the boss is?
* Tell her you bet she’s a little trouble maker!
* Or maybe just ask her to introduce you to her friend (but say it with that same cheeky smile)

All of the above can be used both as openers and follow through statements.

* Mindset:
* The beginning is the real test to all interactions. Stay in there, stay calm. Remember, If you get lots and lots of resistance go through the above sections and see where you may have made your mistakes. Just don’t expect no resistance at all… it’s a bi-product of the situation. Women have shield they use to defend themselves against random guys who approach them in bars (I’ll tell you how to disarm them later). But when I’m interacting with her, I’m thinking she’s just my bratty little girl… my source of entertainment.
* I’m metaphorically asking her “Are you going to let your social conditioning stop you from having a great time with a guy like me?
* I’m telling her “Don’t mess up young lady…”
* I’m NOT thinking “Is this working?”
* I’m NOT thinking “Does she think I’m weird?”
* I’m NOT thinking “Does she like me?” or “what technique or line shall I say now that will make her like me?”
* I see the interaction as pure self amusement. I don’t take it serious. She tells me to fuck off… it’s literally funny to me and as a result she tells me I’m attractive. But either reaction is the same. Outside sources do not affect my self worth or my self esteem. I choose my state not her. YES… EVEN IF SHE TELLS ME IM HOT… I really don’t care what she thinks.
* I have no reason to be there other than my own selfish desires.
* I can just walk off whenever I want.
* I can say whatever I want.
* And I never react to what they say until I have equal investment in the interaction.
* I’m like the white pool ball. Constantly throwing shit at them. Breaking them down and ploughing through until I get those AFC questions….What’s your name?”, “Where you from?
* Yeah, I give it back. I reward the effort… I don’t then go “ha got you!” to myself and pretend to be smooth. I just stay congruent and unaffected by the situation!
* I definitely don’t try to act cool and make them work harder at first… because they won’t! Like the guy I ask “where are you from” who replies “Guess”…It’s too cocky too early and I’m just left thinking “TWAT!” Unless it’s done with charm and cheeky chappie smile its not a good idea to have her work too hard…… at first.
* Then I just vibe…. I talk about random shit….. I am completely myself. I speak honestly and when she asks me what brought me out tonight I tell her honestly too “I’M OUT TO MEET COOL GIRLS”

I DON’T TRY TO PROVE TO HOT WOMEN THAT I HAVE VALUE… I JUST ASSUME IT!

* And as the interaction goes on suddenly you find yourself in a conversation where the initial social awkwardness has been removed and now you’re both vibing…

The difference is that she is reacting to me… and not the other way around.

Feel free to message me with any questions

I have had to turn situations around like this many a time I started the game when I was 19 and looked about 16 and that was 10yrs ago (look I’ve just gave my age up) and the tests still come but now its both ways

When I was 19 I met alot of older women and some of them loved it and some of them don’t realise they love it

Your job is to make them want it, you

Ones I have used and advised people to use are, text her something along the lines of “hay I feel like a DVD night lets go to the store and rent a adult (not porn) film and see if I can understand it but can you drop me home before 9pm as it my bed time Wink (put smiley), I’ll pick the wine” p.s your a bit young for me I normally go for women in there late 20’s but I will make and acception for u as your nose wiggles when you smile”

Also if a women I think might have issues with age I use:

HB: How old are you?

Me: To old for you?

HB: No your not?

Me: You couldn’t handle me, we’d like different things your still learning.

HB: My last boyfriend was 27/32/38yrs

Me: Ok guess my age?

HB: (Normally guesses younger) 23/24yrs

Me: Wow I like you, lets chat about this over there, put your hand on here (point to arm) thats it, all posh like the movies, now we walk like this (perade her around until situable location found).

HB: So how old are you?

Me: Why are you working for pensions sales Wink

HB: haha, really tell me.

Me: Give me a kiss and I will it loosens my lips you see but before you do if you can guess my age after the kiss I’ll get you a drink.

HB: Ok deal (they never guess, turn this into a snog also remember lots of kino in the right places)

Also if you Kino older women in the right places you will be 50% or more on your way as older women can sense a men who knows what he is doing

sorry for the long windedness of it, it just I used this on my holiday I just came back from on a young chick.

Hope this help some what buddy

Beckter

Hi man,

I remember I was alone before i turned 19 and then I learn’t game, although it was such a long time ago I still know how it feels, after a breakup with a girl you love you are alone even if you have ultimate choice with women. We all have felt lonely at some point even guys that have choice with tons of women, a few examples:

Callum Best pulls tons of girls but I see him in the clubs all the time looking bored and alone even though there are girls around him and he also tries to fill it with more and more girls to pump up his ego ones that aren’t around him he’s tried to pull girls in my group loads of times and failed because he is like a hb10 to the girls around him he doesn’t want the easy girl thats around him (I’m getting to a point here trust me ) he’s looking for something to fill the empty lonely feeling we all our. We are all in the same boat!

Russell Brand also saw him last night in Vendom Club bored with girls around him, I’ve read his book and sex is a quick fix for him then after he’s alone again, I’ve been like that myself going through girls like no one business and it didn’t make me less lonely, yes it was fun for a bit and still is now and then.

So my question is are you looking for lots of girls or a lover?
There is no wrong or right answer..

When away meet girls during your day to day life, during lunch break, on the way to work .e.t.c.

Then when home email then and text now and then or talk online, keep the passion up and they will come, I call it comers-back.i I wrote a post on it ages ago can’t find it though.
I’ve been doing it for years it works too well you have a girl come stay over your place or hotel and its like having a girl friend for the long weekend or more I had girls do revisits to me too its great if your a person that doesn’t want a full time thing??? They always want you when they come otherwise they wouldn’t be there.

And yes it’s great to be a mystery too girls so if they ask you there on business, your job once they finally get it out of you is protection not Security, of course if you want to be mysterious its not a lie even and you are there on business meeting women
The way i see it is you are like an iceberg only 10% is showing the other 90% in deep under the surface Cool

And I am the same my friend

Beckster

Too many men seek power from outside themselves. They will part with great amounts of money in order to try to buy some magic bullet. There is no such thing as a magic bullet. Furthermore, they are not assuming responsibility for their own outcome.

Too many men are busy running around trying to get as many women to sleep with them as possible, thinking that it will prove something to themselves. But it won’t, and such men end up still having the same underlying problems. They need to fix their problems before they involve real people.

Too many men entirely base their self worth on how many women say yes. That puts all the power in the women. There is nothing personally powerful about that.

Too many men see women as an obstacle to get around to get to the sex. Such men are just masturbating inside an object.

So many men place power in a woman based solely on the woman’s looks. He does not even consider who she is as a person. What you are seeking so relentlessly is nothing that comes from outside of you, it’s something you already have.

There is only you. You have only you to rely on. You have only
you that you can count on. And what better to work on than yourself?

But you have to believe that you deserve it.

People don’t necessarily get what they want. People don’t necessarily get what they need. Instead, people get what they honestly and truly believe that they deserve. In other words, people get what they expect to get.

The key to having what you want is not getting what you want, but being the person for whom getting what you want is a mere by product of the reality you create simply by the way you live life.

It builds a foundation of belief that is very real and a relationship
with reality that is very empowering.

Get Real. Get in touch with reality.

Respect reality.

A Strong Positive Outlook for the Pick Up Artist

When I first started meditating I started to ask myself why I was doing this. A lot of other guys who are good with women don’t have to do this. The I realized that a Pick Up Artist has something amazing….

I soon realized that a lot of the naturals had to get drunk first which shuts down the thinking part of your brain. It also makes you erratic and socially un-calibrated but it does do a very good job of stopping you over-thinking. When you are drunk you just do and don’t think. This is why alcohol has been prominent during dating since the beginning of time. Women like men to be happy, confident, positive, dominant and fun. If you start to think things like:-

Should I kiss the girl?
She gave me a funny look
I’m not in a good state right now
What was my pick up line

The interaction will inevitably fall flat because A. You are trying and B. Your thought loops will self-sabotage your state.

I did notice some naturals who were very good with women and didn’t need alcohol or drugs. Even in difficult situations where girls were being bitchy or the social interaction was going against them they don’t lose their confidence. I realised that this was because they attached very few negative meanings to anything. In fact everything that happens is positive.

An example of this that springs to mind happened on a recent bootcamp to my instructor Cupid. We were sitting down in a bar with the Hot Babe (HB) Helper and the students were taking it in turns to practice their conversation skills on her. This activity sees massive student growth because as instructors we get to hear and see everything and can make instant tweaks. Towards the end of the session one of the students started trying to tease Cupid by saying to the HB Helper.

“Have you met my friend Cupid, he doesn’t talk much. How’s it going man” *holds out hand to shake but pulls away at the last second* “He’s quite slow isn’t he, must be that big belly. I want to chase him with a towel, he‘s a cool guy”.

The usual response to this kind of onslaught would be for the person to think to themselves what does this mean? and then find a list of reasons why it is him being attacked. Cupid thought what does this mean? and thought this is funny and was genuinely laughing at this guy trying to win his approval.

Always remember to ask yourself what is great about now? And use those empowering words that we talked about earlier to maximise your good feelings. There will be certain negative triggers that you react most to and it is important that you identify these. With meditation you will become a lot more aware and so this task will become easier. When you are out and you notice that you are suddenly feeling stressed, anxious, unhappy ask yourself why? What has just happened to make me feel like this? When you can identify the triggers you can remove them.

You can remove a trigger by changing your state during it. For example if a friend flaking on you gives you lots of negative thoughts you will want to:-

Stop the thought tree from happening, stop your mind after thought one.
Give yourself a positive reason why this is okay? This gives me time to solo sarge.
Change your state. So sing, jump up and down and laugh to change your association to this event.

I do realise this can be quite tricky but do take your time to do this and within just a few pro-active days the results will astound you.

Find ways to Stay Feeling Good

A lot of the guys who are naturally good with women recognise what energy women respond best to. They notice that when they are feeling good, full of energy and are giving out positive vibes then women tend to respond better to them. Usually this is a subconscious realisation (when I’m like this women like me more) and so they look to enter this state as much as possible.

The best guys with women will find ways to make themselves feel happy and positive. Externally they might do things to their physiology to help put themselves into this state. Examples of this are:-

Talking Loud
Singing
Taking up space
Being Physically Dominant
Smiling
Laughing
Doing things that amuse themselves
Talking to a stranger
Hi – Five
Jumping
Walking in a cool way
Looking around and engaging the environment

Also a guy who is ridiculously good with women will have different mental processes that a typical person might have. Two guys can look exactly the same but without even talking to them you can tell who is the more attractive.

The guy who is playing negative thoughts in his head, stress, worry, anger, will be putting out this yuck presence. His energy will receded into the back of his mind and he will appear passive and anxious. The other guy who is positive and engaging in his environment will have a completely different energy. He will be pro-active, looking around, internally happy, completely removed from peoples opinions. A much more attractive person. Examples of these positive mental processes are:-

Noticing everything cool about the current moment
Rationalise everything as positive
Never let a negative thought enter his brain
Realising that everyone else is worried about what he thinks of them
Playing funny or positive mental thought loops in his mind
Having an empty mind

I used to be negative and this came out in a passive aggression. By re-wiring my brain to rationalise everything as positive my confidence exploded. I now am constantly noticing all the cool things about the present moment:-

She looks brilliant
I like her outfit
He’s a cool guy
She’d look amazing in a bikini
I’m loving the sun today
That grandma has a funky walk
I like that dudes trainers
Wow they have green drink, I’m going to try it
She wants me
Those girls can’t wait to meet me, look how bored they are
That was cool I even approached most people wouldn’t
I bet I can add value to those girls

It is very difficult for me to now feel depressed as I only ever want to feel happy and positive. If you are making a change then you do revert back to your old behaviours from time to time. However as long as you maintain your awareness you are able to notice this and then start being pro-actively positive again. Meditation helps a lot with expanding your awareness by creating distancing from your mind. Ideally you want to have a positive, fun, happy mind with daily periods of mind emptiness.

I used to think I was the only one who would get depressed. I thought there was something seriously wrong with me and that I needed Prozac or a number of other type of anti-depressant. But now I’ve realized that maybe it’s just normal to have ups and downs. Even the great Mystery from The Game was depressed, probably far worse than I’ve ever been. Maybe it’s normal to have great ups and great downs.

A few years ago when I decided to drop everything, sell all my stuff and move to Thailand, my best friend in the world, a natural, tried to stop me. I’ve known him for more than five years and he knew that once in a while I’d go through a really deep depression. But luckily I didn’t take his advice, and the change of scenery really helped.

How to combat PUA Depression:

These are things that have helped me personally, and I hope it can help a number of of you.

1. Realize that you’re not alone, and that it’s okay to have ups and downs in life.

2. Change your scenery. Instead of staying at home depressed, go away into nature, go for a hike, go camping, or travel.

3. Stop thinking that a having a beautiful girlfriend or getting laid will cure everything, it doesn’t. Having a girlfriend just adds more stress to your life, and although the momentary happiness and excitement of getting laid does help, it isn’t a long time cure. Plus girls come a lot easier when you are genuinely content.

4. Do things that make you content. For me, I didn’t have any hobbies, but I forced myself to take a vacation and try things. Then I discovered Scuba Diving, Muay Thai, and MMA, all things I never knew I liked until I got out of my house and tried them.

5. Eliminate stress and responsibility from your life. For ages I wished that I could hibernate for 3 months at a time, just do nothing and have no responsibilities. I thought it was impossible, but it turns out that it isn’t. Read and apply the Automation chapter from the 4-hour workweek by Timothy Ferris to eliminate the stress from responsibility.

6. Work on betting yourself, for yourself. I used to workout to get girls. But now I workout and eat well because it makes me feel good. I have more energy, I’m happy to see myself in the mirror, and I can last longer when I spar or play sports. Being attractive for girls became a side benefit inside of a sole benefit.

7. Live in the now. worrying about the past or even looking forward to the future. When I was 13 I kept wishing I was older 16 so I could drive, once I was 16 I’d wish I was 18 so I could be legal and have a better car, then when that came it didn’t stop. Now I’m finally happy being my age, I’m 29 and I’m going to live all 365 days of this year in the present, instead of spending half the time in the past or in the future.

8. Have realistic standards. I have a friend who hasn’t gotten laid in 5 years and still constantly says that girls are not good enough for him. She’s not hot enough, etc etc. Fuck it, forget what other thing think of you, and just enjoy yourself, nothing is permanent and you can always trade up. Once you start having sex or get a girlfriend, even if she is just average, your confidence will go up and more girls will come.

9. Exercise and eat well. A huge reason why I’ve been able to control my depression is because I found a sport where I’m blowing off steam through tough workouts, a healthy lifestyle makes being happy so much easier. Over drinking, doing drugs, smoking, and eating junk food adds to depression and makes your body feel weak and tired. Feel alive and healthy by eating healthy and exercising.

10. Be happy and be positive. Or at least work on being content. Surround yourself with positive people, and stop being unconstructive. Anytime you catch yourself doubting, being unconstructive, or even writing a bad review or making a unconstructive comment, just don’t. I’ve realized that if a restaurant or company sucks, someone else will write a negative review on it, it doesn’t need to be me. Why should I put negative energy into the world and relive the unconstructive experience. Who am I to make it “my responsibility” to let everyone in the world know how much a company sucks. There are so many things in this world to smile at, and so many positive things in the world when you start looking for the good things. Start today.

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A genuine smile over a bowl of Singapore noodles. =)

Warm Regards and good luck,

Johnny Wolf

What is this Self-Esteem Chit Chat all About?

Low self-esteem tends to stem from childhood , even growing up in a happy environment. Sometimes parents encourage a child but in the wrong way. This will create a negative core belief that shapes the child’s life. We like to think we are all in control of our lives but that is not the case. Unless you gain awareness of your core beliefs you will end up reacting to the same things over again. They become circular behaviour patterns that hold you back and influence what you do day to day. The joke is that we aren’t even aware that it is happening.

Your self esteem has a triangle structure. Your day to day thoughts are at the top layer. Then your mind processing / your assumptions (what does this mean?) is in the middle. Finally your core beliefs that you have developed over time are at the bottom.

Layer 1: Day to day thoughts

Layer 2: Assumptions

Layer 3: Core Beliefs

Lets say you notice David Beckham wearing a cool white shirt in a celebrity magazine. It looks good on him, he’s a cool guy and so you decide to buy it for yourself. You walk out of the shop wearing your brand new David Beckham shirt, damm you feel fine. I believe walk was the wrong word there. You swagger out of the shop, confidence is oozing out of you. You could probably impregnate a girl just by staring at her!

Unfortunately though, how long will this happy feeling last? Will this shirt continue to make you feel confident and attractive in a month’s time? What if you see another picture of David Beckham wearing a different shirt? What if one of your underlying core beliefs is that you are ugly?

We’ll this feeling can last minutes, a few days, to maximum, a couple of weeks. Soon enough though the shirt will start to lose its power and then you will start to look to buy another one. Is it the shirt that loses its power though? Or is it the fact that wearing the shirt allows you to override your core belief of I’m ugly with a belief you have about David he’s attractive.

Day to day thoughts
“I love my new shirt”

Assumptions
“if I wear this shirt then I will be attractive”

Core Beliefs
“I‘m ugly”

This is the classic consumer trap of feeling like you are never enough. This is often how high street brands market themselves. Instead by locating and changing negative core beliefs you are able to feel like that million dollar man all of the time. Wearing the shirt will work for sometime but soon as you make a negative assumption about yourself in the shirt it will cease to work.

The last week has been an incredible breakthrough in my pick up artist career. I have been working on my social circle game recently, (see corresponding FR) and have discovered the power that comes with positivity. My game, while the conversational part is good, is based more on observational DHV’s and vibing out as much positivity and good energy as possible. When I am out in the field, I try to create a comfortable, free, cavalier, positive, non judgmental, state that people are drawn to. I say whatever comes to my head, I am funny and confident, I don’t care what others think of me. I always try to keep my energy level up and instill that into others. I’m excited and enthusiastic with my delivery. If I see someone in the venue who looks like they aren’t having fun, I go up and run some attract material on them that is fun and engaging. I realize now that a Venusian Artist doesn’t have to sacrifice anything to get what he wants. He adds value and positivty to every interaction, whether it is with a waitress, a bartender, a mother, a sister, a girl, a girlfriend, an ex, a cousin, a friend, new or old, guys, fathers, brothers, jocks, nerds, EVERYONE!!! I talk to everyone now. My co workers think I’m cooler. Freinds I havent seen in years ask me what changed in my life. They ask why I’m so positive and cheery and fun all of the time. I tell them that life is good, but in reality, its because I am a Venusian Artist that life is so good.

It is the duty of a Venusian Artist to instill positive vibes and emotions into all they come in contact with. A PUA simply is incredibly skilled at picking up women. A Venusian Artist is a skilled conversationalist. He is the life of every social gathering. He never lets people feed off of him, they laugh with him, they feel validated and free around him. He gives license to others to be who they really are without the threat of social retribution. He is passionate about people and cares for everyone he meets. He has a warm heart. He is expressive and bold. He takes no prisoners and risks wisely but fully. He reaches for the stars. He makes mistakes and learns from them. He is in constant proactive evolution. He wants everyone to experience the joy that is within him; the joy that flows out of him like an endless fountain of youth and vitality. He is never sucked up into petty squabbles and dramas for he is above them. He is above the overly reactive actions of the lower value people around him. He has his own world view and lives according to a moral standard that only he alone sets. He never places harsh or unfair judgements onto people he meets. He is above all positive, reframing reality to suit his forward thinking, passionate and joyous view of the world. He shines his light onto everyone he see and they grow like plants in the sun around him. He encourages the best qualities out of people. He makes people around him better because they have associated with him. He adds value, never takes it.

He is intelligent and just, forthright and kind, trustworty and loyal, helpful and friendly, celebrates every moment of every like it is great and only getting better. He uses the power of his words and energy to change the negativity he sees around him. He does not climb on the backs of others, he is at their backs, pushing them onward in pursuit of noble goals, demanding the best they have to offer and giving all he has in kind. He is a beacon to the world. He changes reality through the sheer force of his positive drive. He sees the uniqueness and passion in every human, man or women, and tells them that he see it and appreciates it. Not only does he strive to be above the fray, he takes as many people as he can with him. His standards are high because he understands all he has to offer, and when he chooses to spend his time with you, it is because you have proven yourself worthy of his presence. He holds himself to the highest standards. He needs nothing from people because all he requires comes from within. He has an unwavering faith in himself and in his own abilties. He never thinks to be try hard. He is never dictated to, nor does he react to the negativity in the world. He doesn’t punish, he simply withdraws his light and shrouds negativity in darkness. He takes risks and is unfazed by failure; nay, failure is simply an oppurtunity to improve oneself. He is grounded, with a clear identity and path, and plans for an ever expanding and improving future. He takes joy in the moment and in the future. He satisfies all aspects of his life, finding any fault in himself and doing whatever it takes to improve it. He is a complete and whole human being. He completes others. He leads by example. He is not only comfortable in any situation, but he makes other comfortable. He is who is he is. He is unapolagetic about himself and his actions for he knows the value and inherent goodness within them.

He is fun. He is playful and witty. He surrounds himself with the best people. He is both relaxed and excited. He is independent of outcome. He understands that the world provides when he embodies the emotions he has within. He is 100% congruent. He gets what he wants because he goes after it. He opens himself up to new experiences and new things. He doesn’t force, he leads. He never puts obligations on people. He accepts his emotions and is guided by them, but he is also logical and uses both to steer him. He doesn’t waste time with fools, haters, or evil people. He is proactive and dominant, but doesn’t look down on the people he leads. He understands that everyone’s contributions warrant analysis, but not always acceptance. He contributes and stimulates, both logically and emotionally. He solves problems on all levels. He exposes himself to embarassment and rejection, accepts it, learns from it, then forgets all about it. He remembers the lesson and forgets the pain. He dances like no one is looking. He loves like he’s never been hurt. He is with a woman completely, even when he has multiple women in his life. He makes people feel honored that he has spent time with them. He is the observed because people are drawn to his energy. He can be vulnerable and expose his wounds to the people he cares about, not for them to solve it, but so that they can share and divide the pain and see that he is human like them. He knows that joy shared is multiplied; sadness shared is lessened. He makes people look good to others. He never lowers his value unless he deems it would help someone he truly cares about. He is genuine. He is all that he can be. He has no regrets. He inspires others to greatness. He breaks down the barriers that separate humanity and joins all of the wandering souls he comes into contact with. HE LEAVES EVERYONE BETTER FOR HAVING BEEN WITH HIM. HE MAKES THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE.