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This is one of the most key and powerful parts of guy’s game who is a great with women, it is this simple but a powerful concept!
GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT
I would say 95% of people in general don’t go for what they want. These people have higher levels of fear within them and have a very weak point of focus. Instead they try to avoid what they don’t want to happen.
Most people play not to lose rather than playing to win.
Going for what you want is a mental muscle that you will need to build and strengthen. The front of the mind is the pre-frontal cortex and this is where you will be able to focus and then have the ability to go for what you want. The back of the mind is the lymbic system and this is the pleasure and reward part of the brain. This part of the brain is very reactive and interested in only stimulation and short-term pleasure.
How do I get to access the pre-frontal cortex part of my brain?
Meditation is the greatest tool you can use to get yourself to access the nice frontal part of the mind. Meditation will train you to gain a singular point of focus. Within one week of meditating 15 minutes per day you will notice your concentration levels and confidence will be much higher. By going for what you want, life will become very simple. No if or but, hesitation, style questions. I like her, lets approach her! That simple.
Increasing your dopamine levels is also very important. Dopamine is your happy hormone and whenever this is low your body will put out requests to boost the dopamine levels. When the body does this it will be impossible to focus or go for what you want because the body will shut down the focus part of the brain until it’s needs are met. This is just like trying to sleep when the body is low on carbohydrates. The body will not let you sleep until you get up and eat and then it will shut down. The best four ways to increase your dopamine levels are:- Exercise, Bananas, Seeds and Vitamin C. Every morning when I wake up I have a banana and grape juice smoothie, this really boosts my dopamine levels. Plus everyday I will do some form of exercise, either weight lifting or running. Implementing these habits increases my chances of being able to focus for long periods of time and allows me to go for what I want.
By approaching a girl and rather than playing not to lose and instead going for what you want, will tell the girl so much about you. She will presume this is how you approach life. You want to approach a woman going for what you want. With no fear, you like her and you wanted to come over and say hi. Focus on the woman, shut out the audience or the environment just direct your focus onto her. This is the confident approach. She is what women respond to. A man that approaches a woman like that will approach life in a similar way. He will be dominant, confidence, exciting and be living a life of purpose and one that he chooses rather than the outcome of reaction. Most people are scared what other people think of them so much that they have to drink alcohol to turn off this fear. By following the steps above you will be able to to the confident and attractive all of the time!
The number one pick up artist rule is “Go For What You Want!”
The number one aim that any aspiring ladies’ man should focus on is to become natural and authentic with women. A major benefit to being Natural and Authentic during the approach is that women will trust you. Most men don’t get blown off because they aren’t good looking enough or they aren’t tall enough. They will get blown off for not being authentic when approaching the woman.
A bad example of an approach: “You are really beautiful, I like your shoes” The woman will sense that this is a line and not honest.
Also the same applies if you use a scripted pick up line but on the inside you are feeling nervous. The woman will sense that what you are saying and how you are feeling are not in an alignment and so brush the man off. It is fake behaviour and so, unattractive.
Instead you want to be honest and follow our three step process
IAC = Identify – Accept – Communicate
Identify = Notice how you are feeling
Accept = Say to yourself “I’m feeling X and I accept that”
Communicate = Tell the girl you are approaching how you are feeling.
A good example: “Hey I’m feeling a bit nervous, I don’t normally do this but I think you are cute and so I had to come over and say Hi!”
It is a lot more attractive to be authentic about how you are feeling than to try and fake it. The main reasons for this are:-
1. The woman will trust you and like you more because you are being real. Most men are complete phoneys when approaching women, bragging about their car or trying to buy her a drink. Women don’t want this, they want someone cool and real.
2. By communicating any negative energy or emotion that you might be feeling, you will actually let go of it. There is a saying “What you resist will persist”. Ignoring an emotion or pretending it is not there means that it will stay there all night or get worse! By accepting it and communicating it, you will start the releasing process which means for the rest of the night you will get more confident.
3. In the long-term, by communicating how you feel, these emotions will return less and less. Until they disappear for good and so you always feel confident approaching women. You must accept and communicate them first to build these solid foundations of confidence though.
4. Being authentic communicates high value. Imagine the hottest girl in your school. She could do anything and everyone loved her. She could be angry, sad, stressed… it wouldn’t matter because she was the hottest girl in school, everyone loved her! This girl will have no trouble expressing her emotions and will have high self-esteem. By being authentic, hot women will get the same feeling that you were the most popular guy in school! Most men try to cover up how they are feeling and act tough. The issue with this is that women smell un-authenticity a mile away!
5. Being authentic will build your confidence in the long run. Each success you get, each beautiful woman you date, your confidence will improve because you were being YOU. Over time you will start to realise that you do deserve hot women and your confidence will reach unbelievably high levels!
6. Have you ever got a woman’s number only for her not to reply to your txt messages? By being authentic you will notice that the numbers that you get will be a lot more solid. When using scripted pick-up lines you will notice that your flake rate will increase due to not being real.
7. We are only human! Women don’t want a super hero, they just want a cool, normal guy. Women have bad days and get negative emotions just like we do! They will give you loads more points for being authentic than being fake. I have picked up hundreds of times being stressed, angry or nervous. I have a couple minutes of nervous conversation, the emotion then goes and I get her number or go on a date with her just as normal. I don’t tend to get those emotions anymore but even when I did it didn’t make any difference.
Here are the benefits to eating a healthy (if possible) vegan diet for pick up and seducing women.
Being Vegan is healthy, simple as that. Big food co-operations might not want people to know this but it’s true. Go online, search for detox, healing, blood tests of vegans and you’ll realise what is possible on this vegan / raw vegan diet.
The Law of State Transfer
What you feel she will feel. Eating Vegan / Raw Vegan diet people are happier. They are full of energy and their bodies have everything they need. A happy positive person will make other people feel happy around them. What you feel she will feel especially important for men to remember this. So your mood should always come first and be filled up with happiness and confidence. A vegan / raw diet will give you this.
You are who you attract:
All my girlfriends have always been mirror images
Healthy , athletic, you will be more attracted and attractive automatically if you become that yourself.
I noticed most people in the raw vegan community were really confident. This was also a big realisation for me that eating the foods that your body wants leads to confidence.
Visit wholefoods and McDonalds, take a look around and notice how confident and happy to people are in each store.
When you eat healthy subconsciously you tell yourself that you love yourself
Healing the adrenal glands brings your hormonal balance back to healthy
Adrenals located above kidneys and the brain for stress response situations
Caffeine, stimulants, little sleep and stress will over work them to exhaustion.
Fight or flight response will be triggered less frequently and you will have serotonin in your body so the trigger wont last as long. Meaning approaching a woman on the street or going on a date will not be as nervous.
Ways to increase serotonin levels are, meditation, exercise, healthy eating, smelling nice things, listening to relaxing music, getting good amounts of sleep.
Fight of flight, heart rate is elevated, everything is a threat, survival mode, aggressive, more adrenaline in the body, thinking distorted, unable to relax and have fun.
Excessive masturbation increases cortisol and adrenaline levels in your body making more nervous and anxious.
Excessive adrenaline and cortisol will also make the person fat, the fat is stored to help balance the high levels of hormone.
Eating lots of fruit will calm the nervous system.
Fruit or natural carbohydrate will also give you a dynamic cellular energy which is calm and maintainable. Caffeine and stimulants will give an erratic serge of energy. The erratic energy is unattractive.
Not Eating Meat Advantages
Meat contains, antibiotics, steroid hormones and adrenaline
Antibiotics because the animals live in poor conditions and are sick
Steroids to make them bigger
Adrenaline during the slaughter process
All of these things will take the person away from being happy, calm and healthy which are attractive qualities.
Plus meat is hard to digest so it will make the person feel tired rather than full of energy. Again being tired is not the best state to be dating or meeting people in.
More Energy to Improve your Life
Approaching women on the street or in bars can be out of the comfort zone for most men. This can be a stressful time so it is important to give yourself the best chance to stay calm. Also to prevent yourself from getting sick and being tired focus on a high carb low fat vegan diet.
Detox out negative emotions and health issues
The Detox you naturally get when you go all raw diet or even better Fruit and Salad only. Or Juicing Detox. All of these all the body to get rid of rubbish and naturally heal itself.
I can put on muscle quicker and easier
I haven’t been ill in 2 and a half years and I work 7 days per week.
Loss of fat
Calm nervous system
Emotions are sticky to cells so when you detox your cells will also let go of bad emotions. These bad emotions can create a bad vibe in the person. So by letting go of old emotions and traumas creates a happier, positive person naturally. Their vibe improves which again is really attractive quality.
RELATIVE Abundance Progression: A positive roadmap for your gradual improvement..
I hope the following idea, will help community-members of all skill levels to keep more optimistic when things temporarily ‘don’t got their way’… e.g. When a girl flakes, when you fuck up a day2, when you lose an FB etc.
This post is mostly aimed at newbies to intermediate PUA’s…
There’s nothing new or groundbreaking here, but I hope my way of summarising and presenting things will get through to some dudes, and help them find calm & patience as they progress…
SO – what I’ll try to do in this post is ‘fill in the gaps’, detailing various other types of abundance, that are way-stages to true sexual abundance… So that everybody can feel like the next-step of the abundance-ladder is realistically within reach… Hopefully this post will help keep learner-PUA’s motivated, by offering achievable inner-game sub-goals..
(Side-note: Please DON’T compare yourself to other PUA’s – this can mess your inner-game badly Wink It’s way more productive to look back at your skill 6 months ago & see what has changed…)
I see abundance as more of an identity, or inner-game thing… Yeah, I guess the number of FB’s you’ve got etc. could be objectively measured… But it’s more useful to view abundance as a ‘feeling’… Kind of an ‘Yeah, I can do THAT!’ confidence…
Abundance-Ladder: Progressive levels of competence/confidence… – This is a gradually improving progression of your inner game, based on growingly positive reference-experiences from your ‘best sets so far’… Every now and then, you’ll break-though to the ‘next level’…
*Opening-Abundance…:You’ve got your inner & outer game to a mid-level, where you can approach lots of girls… And sometimes get a #, instadate, or day2… This means that even if you wake up in a shit mood, with an empty diary for the next week, you know there’s at least a chance, that you’ll deliberately or accidentally open a girl & sort yourself out a date… So you may not be a PUA sex-ninja yet…, but on a smaller level, every day becomes a potential PUA adventure… Today could be the day boys – ‘keep the faith Wink
* Phone-Number Abundance…: You get so good at getting numbers, that even if you drop your phone in the bath & it melts, destrying all your numbers, you’re pretty relaxed, coz you KNOW you can go out and easily game a new bunch of hot girls, and get a bunch of #’s, and day2’s from them… It’s no-big-deal… (my phone DID fuck up once, and I lost maybe 15 numbers – I really didn’t give a damn.. Which surprised me!)
*Date-Abundance (Immunity to being ‘stood-up’): … So, at some point, you get enough skill, and faith in your ability, that if you’re wating for a girl to show up on a day2, and she flakes at the last minute, or just doesn’t show up, you can immeditately go gaming, and get some numbers, or an instant-date, instead of spending the rest of the evening in a shit mood & too grumpy to game new-girls effectively… So, being stood up or flaked on, is no-big-deal… I used to get in a VERY bad mood if I got flaked, NOW I’m over it in 5 minutes or sooner, and totally ready to find the next girl… This feeling is very liberating, and hopefuly you’ll find it too Wink
[at this level, you'll probably find a cool side-effect is that you start to pass a lot more shit tests, because you develope an improved sense of self-worth... You can always find another girl to hang out with & game, so WHY would you take excess shit from any girl, without calling her out on it, and responding like a man??]
*Sex-Abundance…: You know that even if ALL your current girls disappear, you can get as much new girls/sex as you want with minimal effort…
If you are corrently prone to neediness etc, open yourself to the idea that this is something you can learn to free-yourself from… It’s a nice feeling to not care Wink But, you don’t lose your ability to enjoy the moment…
So, I hope this way of looking at things will make newbies feel less overwhelmed, or under-pressure to jump from zero-to-hero in one big leap… Just enjoy the journey, as you pass though the stages, make some cool friends (PUA’s and …. girls), and gradually get more kisses, hotter girls, and maybe a bit of sex, … if that’s your thing…
Peace & Positivity
a) Chat with each girl separately about 3somes – has she had one before, does she want one, what sort of girls does she find attractive
b) Text each of them “Hey, I think I know another girl we should meet…. could be a lot of fun!”
(optional) – show them photos of each other so you’ve got the basic attraction agreed
c) Text each of them “Let’s all meet up at Pub X at time Y, have a few drinks & see what happens”. Pub X = your local
d) Have a word with the more confident one about how it’s likely to play out – and make it clear in your own mind that if it doesn’t work, she’s the one you’re taking home
e) Meet for a couple of drinks. Keep it lighthearted, a bit flirty. Make eye contact with the more confident one to see if she nods “I’m up for it” or similar.
f) “Hey, I’ve got a bottle of wine in the fridge at home, let’s go there”. If they both get up & put coats on, you’re almost there
g) Kiss less confident one while walking to your house, in view of the more confident one.
h) Get home, pour drinks.
What about looks?
Looks don’t hurt your chances but they are far from the deciding factor. The most popular guy in your school was he the best looking or the most confident? Usually the most popular guy in school is just more confident or funny.
Men and women are biologically wired to desire different things. Men look at a woman’s replication value, so her hips to breast ratio, facial symmetry, height, hair, lips, breast and bum size. Women look at the man’s survival value, confidence, humour and positivity being the top three.
A man who is good looking might get some freebies. For example some girls might approach him or give him signals that they are interested to be approached.
Social conditioning teaches women that they should go for a certain type of man but this type of man isn’t what they respond to. A very shallow, un-evolved, socially conditioned woman might be primarily focus on a man’s looks. Woman like this are rare though, especially attractive women. A more attractive woman will have gone on dates and generally have better self-esteem than a girl that is typically not as attractive. There are probably many counter examples but on average this is true.
Women will go on dates with good looking guys and be very disappointment. The guy is typically shy, acts strange, immature, unsure of himself. Some girls will understand that looks aren’t important for them while others take a bit of time to put the pieces of the puzzle together. “So I went on that date with that guy I should fancy but didn’t yet that normal man who made me laugh and made me feel all those emotions I slept with.”
Another factor with looks is that if your social skills, confidence or humour is just one percent better than your friend who is ultra good looking then you will get the girl. I have had many good looking students, a few male models come on bootcamp. I’m balding with a regular body and they could look like Brad Pitt out of Fight Club yet if I’m just one percent better I end up getting the girl.
What a woman is ultimately looking at is if you feel entitled to be with her. If you are good looking then getting lots of girls checking you out in the nightclub will increase your feeling of being entitled. This is a good thing but will lead to the good looking man fearing the approach and rejection. He has a lot to lose because the girl has put him up on the pedal stool and if he is not cool she will be disappointed. It is also completely unnecessary.
I have one friend called Chris who is very good looking with strong facial features. He studied Software Engineering with me and is a good friend to this day. Chris generally lacks confidence, a bit geeky and can be shy in social situations. He’s much better now, however I lost count on the number of times girls would come up to him in a club. They’d say hi or that they liked him at least once per night. Yet every time he would seem to be able to de-attract the woman. This is a guy who has looks that could grace the cover of a fashion magazine. Yet he only had sex three times over the course of his three years at University. He is not religious and he didn’t have a girlfriend.
Now my house mate Ash was and is a full on geek. He owns every games console ever created. Think Sega Saturn to Dreamcast, he owns them all. He has phrases like “It’s on like Donkey Kong” and “Locked and Loaded”. Above his bed he has a massive customized Ms Pac man poster. If there was an island of geeks then he would be The Great Geeker. He isn’t great looking although he thinks that he is, in fact he is balding, skinny and pale looking.
Now Ash wasn’t perfect, he had ego and a strong need to feel loved. However this geeky guy would regularly go out and pick up girls. Ash was my main wing back at University and someone I learnt a lot from. He completely accepted his geekiness and just loves video games.
One of Ash’s favourite things to do was to bring a girl back to his room, have sex with her in the dark and then turn the lights on afterwards to reveal his games consoles and posters and proudly shout “You’ve just had sex with a nerd!”. I can imagine the poor girl thinking, “oh my god what have I done, I had sex with you? You suck!”
Ash didn’t have looks but he did have confidence, humour and was generally a positive guy. A man’s looks are such a passive thing for a woman that they are basically irrelevant. Make sure you are shaved, clean and wear decent clothes and that will be enough for you to date women with unlimited beauty.
* FOLLOW MY STRATEGY AND YOUR NIGHT WILL NEVER AGAIN TURN INTO ANY OF THESE THREE THINGS… SLOW, ARDUOUS OR GRUELLING!
* Understand that you are a creature of HABIT. What you did before you will do again. Break your old “VIEWING, REACTIVE, SPECTATOR – MODE PATTERN”. Just get out there and fucking make shit happen! Create a new pattern!
I have better and better nights because I follow THIS pattern…
Entering the Venue:
* Start out with a warm up set. This is huge. Build momentum. But don’t worry about it… just BE. If you’re constantly questioning yourself as to whether you are in the zone or not, the ‘zone’ will constantly elude you. Let state come from within. You will give “less of a fuck” as the night goes on and the momentum will take care of itself. Don’t give a fuck about giving less of a fuck! Speak to your first group within 3 seconds of walking into the venue… NO HESITATION… AND IT DOESN’T EVEN MATTER WHO YOU TALK TO! What’s more, any lame ass line will do… that doesn’t matter either. You just need to start breaking those old spectator mode habits such as walking around the venue to “see if there are hot girls there”. You can start the first few interactions by simply asking ” hey what time does this place shut” or “what time does it get busy” or “Hey what’s the occasion.” COMPLETELY LAME right? Maybe, but you just need that momentum… remember!And no running straight to the bar to buy a drink before you “check out the venue”. What do you want to be a spectator or a creator? The longer you leave it, the longer you’re the spectator, the more you start listening to that little bastard voice in the head. When I’m in a busy club I walk round saying random shit to everyone. That’s EVERYONE. I don’t care. Complete self amusement… I’m having a LOT of fun.
* Fuck that voice!! The smaller the time in between different groups of people, the less in your head you will be!
* Momentum truly is a wonderful thing!
* A little side note regarding alcohol… If a women senses you are confident because you are slightly tipsy then if makes it a lot harder for her to build attraction for you. Don’t hide behind ALCOHOL… don’t be one of THOSE guys who tell their friends “I’M OKAY ONCE I’VE HAD A DRINK.” Replace alcohol with momentum.It won’t take long before you start taking bigger risks. The more you practice, the more you start to say things that are completely congruent with who you are instead of those bullshit LAME ASS openers that you don’t give a shit about the answers to. You start going more direct. You start getting more physical… more SEXUAL. As a side note: If you’re in one venue for the night you have a choice… Build the momentum gradually or designate an “obliteration venue” wherein you give yourself a time limit. Around ten minutes maybe. Bust in and speak to EVERYONE within that time. Be completely outcome free. You can start off lame, but you want to get more and more direct.
* What I mean when I say direct is be more “Authentic” and “Congruent”.
* I work in a bar on most Friday nights where I constantly get to flirt with hot women. One night I finished early but the momentum stayed with me and as I was walking home I made a very direct approach on a VERY tall and beautiful blonde lady I observed through the window as I walked past a late night bar. Direct walk up… Hold eye contact. I took her away from all the guys she was with and bought her a drink. Yeah that’s right guys… I bought her a drink! And then I took her home and did naughty things to her!! Not one of her friends stopped her. Pure confidence!! And I tell you now, if that was the first girl I’d spoken to that night there would have been no way I would of gone in hard as I did. The momentum had gathered me up to a peak!
* Entering the Venue Part II:
* So now we have the foundations – the way you should be approaching a night out and the importance of momentum – I want to talk about the interactions themselves…
* As you build up your flow you will start to have more interactions, more conversations. You will start taking bigger “risks”.
* I don’t really care what she says for the first couple of minutes as she has her “club shield up”. It can be brought down with either high energy of low energy absurdity.
* The randomness of the night makes the fun factor kick in, but I’m still going to shoot to kill. I normally buzz around the club either in high energy mode or low energy mode. Both, however, have the overall goal of going out TO GET LAID… either that night or at a later date.
* I don’t stay in one mode or the other, but I’m definitely in low energy mode for the larger percentage of the night. I used to be a complete nut case and just run around being a clown and I still enjoy adding in some of this stuff. But it’s all about balance. I find balance at a ratio of 80/20 (low to high).
High Energy Mode:
Say Cheers (while touching glasses).
Scream WHOOOO! (and scream it with your hands up in the air while standing in the middle of a large group).
You can even walk up singing the song that’s playing or even just mime it! Just hold eye contact no matter what is playing.
Use ‘QUIRKY’ openers. Get your wing to choose them for you. Some of my recent ones include:
“Hi… I’m Brad Pit”
“Who lies more? Turtles or dolphins…
And the classic ‘Thundercats’ opener.. SNNNAAAAAARRRRFFFF!!! Hoooooooo!!
Think of your own though, don’t just use these. It really doesn’t matter what it is. The Funnier YOU find it the better. YOU are outcome free, remember…
So dance like you’re mental. Pump your fists in air, make your face expressive. Go down on one knee. Anything… in a pure “I don’t give a shit style’. Dance like a chicken even. PURE SELF AMUSEMENT ! “Being the party” is very important. But be it for you, without looking for a specific reaction. Draw state from within. Don’t let your state be dictated by external forces.
Soon you’ll be amusing yourself while going for instant make outs on the dancefloor – then it’s kiss closing in bathrooms… and even LOVE MAKING IN THE LAV!!
Low Energy Mode:
This is my foundation or default state when I’m in club! I go into low energy mode when I feel I’ve reached the HOOK POINT. Once there I can go into LOW ENERGY mode and leave the girl to invest the greater energy into the interaction. It’s simple… resting purely on the subtleties of that inner smile.
I’m engaging in the purest form with the person I’m talking to.
I’m doing everything other than trying.
I’m pure congruency. I’m not trying and not even trying not to try.
I’m simply PRESENT, yet my momentum is propelling me forwards.
I’m taking up a lot of space.
My body movements are smooth.
* I’m not needy. I’m not checking out the women or anything else for that matter… if a glass smashes… no big deal. A fight breaks out…no big deal. I probably wouldn’t even notice! It’s pure presence in motion and there’s no looking to the environment for cues… I’m demonstrating complete internal validation.
Comparing The Two:
* I find that it’s balls on the line in high energy state… that’s where I’m making shit happen. BUT, low energy state is where I’m getting the opportunities to speak to the women I really like the look of. I build a lot of value up from high energy state… because I’m the party. I stand out immeasurably from all the losers who are just stood there observing and CHECKING OUT the hot girls … trying to build up enough courage to go and actually speak to one of them. And then I’m just chill and the fluctuation between these two modes is dynamite. I find that after only 15 minutes in a venue a lot of women are already making it really easy for us to open them. They’re leaning against walls and making subtle eye contact. Or they’re brushing past and standing right next to us. Sometimes they’re so close that my body can’t help but be touching theirs.
* It’s purely from the vibe we give off… and this is where I start picking off the hotties!
* I realise that the dynamics of interactions, at the start, can be hard to crack so I’ve come up with some classic stuff that gets the conversation easily flowing. If you did everything above properly then you won’t need to “worry” about silence or what to say next. What’s your opener? Like I said before… IT’S NO BIG DEAL!
* Say “Hey what’cha looking at girl! (do it with a cheeky smile that grins from inside out)
* Say “You guys look like you are from (insert random country here! But make it something random and fun like North or South Kenya, Korea or even Wales!)
* Say “I bet you guys live together…”
* Ask them who the boss is?
* Tell her you bet she’s a little trouble maker!
* Or maybe just ask her to introduce you to her friend (but say it with that same cheeky smile)
All of the above can be used both as openers and follow through statements.
* The beginning is the real test to all interactions. Stay in there, stay calm. Remember, If you get lots and lots of resistance go through the above sections and see where you may have made your mistakes. Just don’t expect no resistance at all… it’s a bi-product of the situation. Women have shield they use to defend themselves against random guys who approach them in bars (I’ll tell you how to disarm them later). But when I’m interacting with her, I’m thinking she’s just my bratty little girl… my source of entertainment.
* I’m metaphorically asking her “Are you going to let your social conditioning stop you from having a great time with a guy like me?
* I’m telling her “Don’t mess up young lady…”
* I’m NOT thinking “Is this working?”
* I’m NOT thinking “Does she think I’m weird?”
* I’m NOT thinking “Does she like me?” or “what technique or line shall I say now that will make her like me?”
* I see the interaction as pure self amusement. I don’t take it serious. She tells me to fuck off… it’s literally funny to me and as a result she tells me I’m attractive. But either reaction is the same. Outside sources do not affect my self worth or my self esteem. I choose my state not her. YES… EVEN IF SHE TELLS ME IM HOT… I really don’t care what she thinks.
* I have no reason to be there other than my own selfish desires.
* I can just walk off whenever I want.
* I can say whatever I want.
* And I never react to what they say until I have equal investment in the interaction.
* I’m like the white pool ball. Constantly throwing shit at them. Breaking them down and ploughing through until I get those AFC questions….What’s your name?”, “Where you from?
* Yeah, I give it back. I reward the effort… I don’t then go “ha got you!” to myself and pretend to be smooth. I just stay congruent and unaffected by the situation!
* I definitely don’t try to act cool and make them work harder at first… because they won’t! Like the guy I ask “where are you from” who replies “Guess”…It’s too cocky too early and I’m just left thinking “TWAT!” Unless it’s done with charm and cheeky chappie smile its not a good idea to have her work too hard…… at first.
* Then I just vibe…. I talk about random shit….. I am completely myself. I speak honestly and when she asks me what brought me out tonight I tell her honestly too “I’M OUT TO MEET COOL GIRLS”
I DON’T TRY TO PROVE TO HOT WOMEN THAT I HAVE VALUE… I JUST ASSUME IT!
* And as the interaction goes on suddenly you find yourself in a conversation where the initial social awkwardness has been removed and now you’re both vibing…
The difference is that she is reacting to me… and not the other way around.
Feel free to message me with any questions
Here is a bit of background of how I got into game.
Part 1 Age 9 to 17 years
These a point to this whole story (somewhere lol)….
Most people ask me on seminars/bootcamps and 1on1’s were you always this good with women, here’s your answer.
Really I don’t consider myself ginger not anymore, that person isn’t dead but merged with a higher being an evolved Rob/Beckster. Some might say altar ego. Cool
It was fine at primary school St John’s I even had a girl friend and a few snogs and the girl next door (well 2 doors away) was my girl friend to, she even came to me with her friend and said can we both go out with you, I was 9 or 10 at the time. She even lock me in her room smoke cigs and said if I didn’t kiss her she would say it was me.
I was definitely a natural them days, I even was thinking of routines to pull girls then.
So no issues with my hair colour then.
Secondary came Sheen school, yes you guessed it so did the names and bullying a lot of my friends went to other schools, I always stuck up for myself or ignored people that hassled me but it did dent my confidence by probably 90% which is a hell of a lot I was now an total AFC.
I had one girl friend through this time and not for long and it was at 13.
I fancied a girl at school who I hardly ever spoke to (now I know her very well but that’s for later maybe).
I went to Richmond college with a new attitude in life and I didn’t know anyone in my class and not many in my college.
I changed my hair style to curtains it was either that or a skin head (wish I’d gone for the skin head now).
One girl knew me called Candy ran over to me and we chatted that never happened in secondary school. We made friends other the holidays and she was friends with my buddy Spanners. She noticed my new hair it gave me a boast of confidence.
In my class I just tried being alpha and funny and ended up the main guy in the class, which wasn’t hard as there were no cool people in it.
I ended up pulling one girl in the class who had a major crush on my, not the best looker but best in the class.
The year ended I was 17 and I had grown in confidence but this next year was filled with all knew people and they were cool, I still had red hair but I had put a few blond highlights in it. Also some guys and girls acted like the alphas and bullies in my secondary school.
I stuck to my guns and held the frame of the leader like the year before, people still laughed at my jokes but also tested me, but as an equal this time. No one tried to bully me and no one mentioned my red hair but my mate I had made there.
He was Filipino called Jay and rolled with some could be dangerous very high alpha people.
Meeting them was very hard specially cos I was the only white boy. Jay and I also rolled with another guy and his posse, again I was the only white kid and these guys were also HARD. In both groups there were the guys that liked me and those that ignored me and a few they didn’t really want me around and tried to shit test me, but never about my hair. No one would hassle me about my hair even a few guys from my secondary school that use to.
Also I grow 7 inches over this period which made me 6 foot yes I was small at school too and skinny and pale.
I now walked with confidence and started buy semi decent clothes.
I slowly lightened my hair bit by bit to make it look natural not just a over night change. I also started putting some fake tan on not loads just like summer glow cream. I styled my hair like Leonardo DiCaprio in Romeo + Juliet (1996) and made my eyebrows a little darker, I copied his face expressions and mannerism. http://bahcecikdevekusu.com/caprio/romeo/
I was even confident enough to go for a job interview remember I was super unconfident not long ago.
In a cinema there are 1000’s of sets a day and I was soon to meet someone very influential to my life who will also introduce me to Speed seduction. Cool
Age 18 to 20
So I was going out to Kingston wear baggy white shitty shirts and black trousers shinny buckle shoes and a crap hair style
I had spots and didn’t have confidence yet to speak to women
I went to Kingston a lot as I had a few friends around there also pubs in Putney were I worked. I could talk to the girls from work and very quickly learned to tease them and neg them.
Though in the course of a year and a half I deflowered 1 girl and snogged and messed around in bed with another. Also the girl I slept with friend use to visit and I snogged her she wanted to be my GF but I left it, then later she went back with her old BF so I shamelessly stole her back then called it off again. Now why was I doing this as I couldn’t ever get girls. Well the reason is that I’d been studying Speed seduction.
So I’m just 19 and I go to the pub with my mate and his dad, I meet his dad’s mates who are older then me by 7, 8, and 10 years
One guy Mathew was 6,10 feet tall and built, fuck peacocking everyone knew he was about.
Then the Justin he was the older of the bunch 6,2 healthy and smiley, clever guy
Then there was Blade, suit jacket and bottoms, tight white t-shirt, long dark straightened hair, New Rock boots making him about 6,2
He leaned on an umbrella which he sometimes span around and pointed with and used as a prop. I have always been able to sum people up really well and I knew this guy had a secret, he was very charming and friendly, good body language and spoke softly but clearly. He had an outrageous laugh which made you laugh, he didn’t drink hardly ever smoked and trained a lot as he was well build, he looked a bit like Antonio Bandreas.
We all got on really well and I was the cheeky young chappy of the group, Blade soon became a really good friend as did the others. He started taking me to the westend were he would stop girls in the street and have then shut there eyes and go on a journey with him, or a roller coaster ride or talk about objects in shop or coffee shops. It was all so wonderful and interesting to me, I had to have in!!! Shocked
So Blade told me there was this Guru out there called Ross J and he taught guys to meet chicks in the streets and coffee shops and stores
So I tried in the Cinema at work and got a gorgeous Swedish girls to go on a date with me, she still remains one of the best looking girls I have been with we had a few dates till she went back to Sweden, but I did mess up our first date by wearing too much aftershave she sneezed all the way through the film Tongue
I use to read all Ross’s newsletters waiting eagerly for the new one to come out also had his tapes (no CD’s then) and Ross had his little book out then too, which I still have
My first ever opener which I used all the time was “has anyone ever told you you’re a shining example of genetic perfection”? I told Ross this a few weeks ago in X’s flat and he laughed and said sorry for that, I replied “why it got me laid so much and still does”. Then I told him my SS line, he loved it Grin
Anyway back to the story, so I still had no clue about club game Ross’s stuff was for day game. In Kingston for the 1yr I had been going I only ever got one snog on the dance floor.
So I thought its time to start perfecting my own art of seduction…..
I have had to turn situations around like this many a time I started the game when I was 19 and looked about 16 and that was 10yrs ago (look I’ve just gave my age up) and the tests still come but now its both ways
When I was 19 I met alot of older women and some of them loved it and some of them don’t realise they love it
Your job is to make them want it, you
Ones I have used and advised people to use are, text her something along the lines of “hay I feel like a DVD night lets go to the store and rent a adult (not porn) film and see if I can understand it but can you drop me home before 9pm as it my bed time Wink (put smiley), I’ll pick the wine” p.s your a bit young for me I normally go for women in there late 20’s but I will make and acception for u as your nose wiggles when you smile”
Also if a women I think might have issues with age I use:
HB: How old are you?
Me: To old for you?
HB: No your not?
Me: You couldn’t handle me, we’d like different things your still learning.
HB: My last boyfriend was 27/32/38yrs
Me: Ok guess my age?
HB: (Normally guesses younger) 23/24yrs
Me: Wow I like you, lets chat about this over there, put your hand on here (point to arm) thats it, all posh like the movies, now we walk like this (perade her around until situable location found).
HB: So how old are you?
Me: Why are you working for pensions sales Wink
HB: haha, really tell me.
Me: Give me a kiss and I will it loosens my lips you see but before you do if you can guess my age after the kiss I’ll get you a drink.
HB: Ok deal (they never guess, turn this into a snog also remember lots of kino in the right places)
Also if you Kino older women in the right places you will be 50% or more on your way as older women can sense a men who knows what he is doing
sorry for the long windedness of it, it just I used this on my holiday I just came back from on a young chick.
Hope this help some what buddy
8 SECOND #CLOSE
After finishing boot camp about 7 or 8 months ago I was walking home and saw a girl wearing a hoodie, sitting on the wall waiting for a bus.
The 8 second #close went like this.
Walked pasted stop did a quick double take and one step back. (She looked up)
Forced IOI with my point and hide face with hand routine. (she smiled)
Walked straight up hands held out CHEEKY SMILE Wink She took my hands.
“Hay take your hoodie off” (she did), said “that’s better” (as I span her) Cheesy
“Gotta catch my bus, I’m having a fancy dress party gimme your number I’ll text ya”
Her: Ok giggles (giggles are good it means they trust you and there happy and fancy you, I’m always happy when my women are giggling, (as I typed 07 into it and handed it to her). Then looked away like it was no big deal. NOTE OF INTEREST: this is important as if they look up and your grinning like a twat then they are likely just to say email me instead or actually I better not.
I shouted later Miss Red Riding hood as left with another point and cheeky smile as I walked away, this is important as it’s like sealing the deal but super quick.
Why I hear you ask and still wasn’t the sealing the deal to quick.
If you chat to a HB for 3 hours then number close then go straight after that, she will most likely flake. But if you stay inset for another 20mins to show all the trust, comfort and connection you have built up is chicken soup = kosher, then she won’t flake.
Now if the interaction is under 30 seconds and you piss off immediately after getting the number then she will still flake.
So you need to so a mini something at the end to show you just wasn’t after the number, now in my case I did a point and smile which is what sparked her interest at the beginning. Even though I was walking away at the time this was ok as at the time I was walking to her. It’s sort of like a trigger or anchor.
Also as it was a super quick #number close I could do a super quick exit.
I never had a party and just texted my text routines she came over to mine the next night and f-close totally time in her company from start to finish 20ish mins.
So now when women say they can tell if they like a man in the first few seconds you know that there still lots of time to do things in that time frame Cheesy Cool